Am I A Sex Addict?

Am I A Sex Addict?

It is becoming an ever increasing question in my office, “Am I a sex addict?” Often, this question comings from folks who simply like masturbating, enjoy viewing porn and want sex in normal (but high sex drive) way.  Yet, there are some folks who. ...

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Paris | ‘Before and After’ Sessions | Sex Club

Paris | ‘Before and After’ Sessions | Sex Club

Meet me in Paris with your lover and I will help you two have one of the most memorable erotic experience of your life.  Adults enjoying “adult” sexy time with other like-minded individuals. San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely. ...

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Conscious Dating Group | Winter 2020

Conscious Dating Group | Winter 2020

If this sounds familiar: “I hate dating apps so much and I don’t know why I have to do this.” or “Not again, dating is the worst.”  You’re not alone.    Dating these days often feels beyond complex. Especially with dating apps at the. ...

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Premature Ejaculation Treatment Options

Premature Ejaculation Treatment Options

  Have you ever searched “premature ejaculation treatment” on the web? If so, you would come across a wide array of information, spanning from medications, creams, techniques, and exercises. Premature Ejaculation   =    PE With so many options, how do you know where to. ...

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My Horse Accident

My Horse Accident

When I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...

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The Rumpus Advice Column #46: Beauty and The Beast

The Rumpus Advice Column #46: Beauty and The Beast

BY SUGAR August 5th, 2010 The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don’t fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love. Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part. ...

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My First Client Question

My First Client Question

There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...

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Paris ~ Ooh lala |September 2019

Paris ~ Ooh lala |September 2019

I’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...

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John Welwood | The Loss of My Mentor

John Welwood | The Loss of My Mentor

“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” ~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~ “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’. ...

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Top 3 Tips for Online Dating

Top 3 Tips for Online Dating

In my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...

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We Have Come to Be Danced | Jewel Mathieson

We Have Come to Be Danced | Jewel Mathieson

We have come to be danced not the pretty dance not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance but the claw our way back into the belly of the sacred, sensual animal dance the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance. ...

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The Orgasm Trap

The Orgasm Trap

Getting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...

Read More
A Complete Premature Ejaculation Guide 

A Complete Premature Ejaculation Guide 

I want to offer you the natural premature ejaculation treatment plan that has helped countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male performance struggles, I have witnessed first-hand the difficulties (and triumphs) of many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. From. ...

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Intimacy | Relationships | Charnel Ground

Intimacy | Relationships | Charnel Ground

My teacher John Welwood was recently published in post about love and relationships for Lion’s Roar. The work was adapted from a talk given at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. The whole article is fantastic and you can find it. ...

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When One Person Wants More Sex Than The Other

When One Person Wants More Sex Than The Other

“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...

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Do we need sex therapy? Find out in 7 Easy Questions

Do we need sex therapy? Find out in 7 Easy Questions

Find out in 7 easy questions if you and your partner need to book an appointment with sex therapist. It’s difficult to know when it’s become time to see an expert for advice in your relationship. Romantic relationships naturally go through up and downs. ...

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14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...

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How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life

How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...

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Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...

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Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...

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Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...

Read More
To Flirt Or To Fuck?

To Flirt Or To Fuck?

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...

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After The Honeymoon Phase

After The Honeymoon Phase

Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...

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Too much of a good thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Too much of a good thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...

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Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...

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Desire Reboot

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...

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Am I A Sex Addict?

Am I A Sex Addict?

It is becoming an ever increasing question in my office, “Am I a sex addict?” Often, this question comings from folks who simply like masturbating, enjoy viewing porn and want sex in normal (but high sex drive) way.  Yet, there are some folks who. ...

Read More
Premature Ejaculation Treatment Options

Premature Ejaculation Treatment Options

  Have you ever searched “premature ejaculation treatment” on the web? If so, you would come across a wide array of information, spanning from medications, creams, techniques, and exercises. Premature Ejaculation   =    PE With so many options, how do you know where to. ...

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My Horse Accident

My Horse Accident

When I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...

Read More
My First Client Question

My First Client Question

There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...

Read More
Paris ~ Ooh lala |September 2019

Paris ~ Ooh lala |September 2019

I’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...

Read More
Top 3 Tips for Online Dating

Top 3 Tips for Online Dating

In my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...

Read More
The Orgasm Trap

The Orgasm Trap

Getting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...

Read More
A Complete Premature Ejaculation Guide 

A Complete Premature Ejaculation Guide 

I want to offer you the natural premature ejaculation treatment plan that has helped countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male performance struggles, I have witnessed first-hand the difficulties (and triumphs) of many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. From. ...

Read More
14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...

Read More
Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...

Read More
Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...

Read More
Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...

Read More
To Flirt Or To Fuck?

To Flirt Or To Fuck?

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...

Read More
After The Honeymoon Phase

After The Honeymoon Phase

Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...

Read More
Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...

Read More
Desire Reboot

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...

Read More