Recently a reader wrote in: I very much enjoyed your article, 10 Things Sexually Connected Couples Do. My biggest question is around emotional intimacy in long term relationships. What role does emotion have in long-term sexual satisfaction? Can emotional closeness be a part of. ...
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Seven years ago, I was driving across the Golden Gate Bridge when I picked up a call from one of my best friend’s Nikita. She proposed we start a blog around sexuality. For years, she had been encouraging me to write more but I. ...
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Are you wanting more emotional closeness but not sure how to foster more open communication? Does the stress of the pandemic have your partner more shut down than normal? We all know that open and honest communication plays a huge role in the success. ...
Read More
In times like these, with changes that the global pandemic brings, even great couples can be put to the test. Little did we know that when we joked with our partners about being our ‘ride or die,’ we would actually have to prove it!. ...
Read More
There’s so much pressure on all of us to be amazing lovers in bed. Movies show us impeccably made up actors falling gracefully into bed. Fitting together easily and climaxing simultaneously – all without even smudging their mascara. Magazines tell us over and over. ...
Read More
Listen to me chat with Chris Sawyer from Mind Body Radio about sexual healing and my current inspirations. Mind Body Radio ...
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One major challenge of a long-term relationship is to keep the sexual vibrancy alive. Yet, while it is such a common issue, many couples do remain sexually content and manage to maintain their passion. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out?. ...
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It is becoming an ever increasing question in my office, “Am I a sex addict?” Often, this question comings from folks who simply like masturbating, enjoy viewing porn and want sex in normal (but high sex drive) way. Yet, there are some folks who. ...
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Meet me in Paris with your lover and I will help you two have one of the most memorable erotic experience of your life. Adults enjoying “adult” sexy time with other like-minded individuals. San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely. ...
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If this sounds familiar: “I hate dating apps so much and I don’t know why I have to do this.” or “Not again, dating is the worst.” You’re not alone. Dating these days often feels beyond complex. Especially with dating apps at the. ...
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Going to a sex club for the first time can be exciting, as well as nerve-wracking. Seeing people live (and not on-screen) delighting in the pleasures of the flesh can be hard to fully prepare for. When I first started exploring the sex club/swinging. ...
Read More
Have you ever searched “premature ejaculation treatment” on the web? If so, you would come across a wide array of information. Spanning from medications, creams, techniques, and exercises. Premature Ejaculation = PE With so many options, how do you know where to. ...
Read More
It’s happened to all of us at some point. Day in, day out, you’re living a nice, predictable life with all your ducks in a row. Then, life throws you a curveball that changes everything, including your sex life. In 2017, I fell off. ...
Read More
When I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...
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BY SUGAR August 5th, 2010 The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don’t fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love. Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part. ...
Read More
There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...
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At the beginning of last year, I had a brilliant idea: I want to create an online video course for clients who struggle with premature ejaculation. After all, I’ve received calls from men all over the world who felt they were doomed to a. ...
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I’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...
Read More
“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” ~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~ “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’. ...
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In my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...
Read More
We have come to be danced not the pretty dance not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance but the claw our way back into the belly of the sacred, sensual animal dance the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance. ...
Read More
Getting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...
Read More
What if I told you that you’re missing out on life? You are missing out on opportunities to meet “the one,” or ones. You’ve already missed out on cool, interesting conversations with people and possibly life-changing experiences. You might wonder why – how could. ...
Read More
I want to offer you the natural premature ejaculation treatment plan that has helped countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male performance struggles, I have witnessed first-hand the difficulties (and triumphs) of many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. From. ...
Read More
So often, we need a little break. A break from work, our relationship, our family ~ just from life. Many of us are unable (or do not want to) just pack up and leave our lives, yet we do need moments of retreat, release. ...
Read More
My teacher John Welwood was recently published in post about love and relationships for Lion’s Roar. The work was adapted from a talk given at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. The whole article is fantastic and you can find it. ...
Read More
When a couples shows up in my office and we start exploring where things went wrong and how can they fix the issue or issues at hand, I lean into the three main facets of the modern relationship that most people have come to. ...
Read More
“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...
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Find out in 7 easy questions if you and your partner need to book an appointment with sex therapist. It’s difficult to know when it’s become time to see an expert for advice in your relationship. Romantic relationships naturally go through up and downs. ...
Read More
A year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he’d been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing. ...
Read More
Many men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are. ...
Read More
A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...
Read More
You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...
Read More
Are there any benefits from lasting longer or withholding ejaculation? Someone recently wrote in a question: What are your thoughts on male orgasm and eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m curious about how holding back. ...
Read More
Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...
Read More
Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of. ...
Read More
How to be a good lover – amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people;. ...
Read More
I hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you. ...
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Passion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...
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“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I. ...
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Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about. ...
Read More
Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...
Read More
When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...
Read More
Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...
Read More
Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...
Read More
Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...
Read More
Men being bullied is such a huge part of the boyhood experience it is seen as normal. A punch in the arm from a friend, wrestling to see who’s stronger, a dog pile. Some might say that is just how boys are. Sometimes, I. ...
Read More
We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...
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Do you know there is something called your ‘core erotic theme’? Jack Morin wrote this insightful book for anyone that wants to better understand themselves sexually and delve deeper into what turns them on and why. Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific. ...
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Recently a reader wrote in: I very much enjoyed your article, 10 Things Sexually Connected Couples Do. My biggest question is around emotional intimacy in long term relationships. What role does emotion have in long-term sexual satisfaction? Can emotional closeness be a part of. ...
Read MoreSeven years ago, I was driving across the Golden Gate Bridge when I picked up a call from one of my best friend’s Nikita. She proposed we start a blog around sexuality. For years, she had been encouraging me to write more but I. ...
Read MoreAre you wanting more emotional closeness but not sure how to foster more open communication? Does the stress of the pandemic have your partner more shut down than normal? We all know that open and honest communication plays a huge role in the success. ...
Read MoreIn times like these, with changes that the global pandemic brings, even great couples can be put to the test. Little did we know that when we joked with our partners about being our ‘ride or die,’ we would actually have to prove it!. ...
Read MoreThere’s so much pressure on all of us to be amazing lovers in bed. Movies show us impeccably made up actors falling gracefully into bed. Fitting together easily and climaxing simultaneously – all without even smudging their mascara. Magazines tell us over and over. ...
Read MoreListen to me chat with Chris Sawyer from Mind Body Radio about sexual healing and my current inspirations. Mind Body Radio ...
Read MoreOne major challenge of a long-term relationship is to keep the sexual vibrancy alive. Yet, while it is such a common issue, many couples do remain sexually content and manage to maintain their passion. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out?. ...
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Read MoreIt is becoming an ever increasing question in my office, “Am I a sex addict?” Often, this question comings from folks who simply like masturbating, enjoy viewing porn and want sex in normal (but high sex drive) way. Yet, there are some folks who. ...
Read MoreMeet me in Paris with your lover and I will help you two have one of the most memorable erotic experience of your life. Adults enjoying “adult” sexy time with other like-minded individuals. San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely. ...
Read MoreIf this sounds familiar: “I hate dating apps so much and I don’t know why I have to do this.” or “Not again, dating is the worst.” You’re not alone. Dating these days often feels beyond complex. Especially with dating apps at the. ...
Read MoreGoing to a sex club for the first time can be exciting, as well as nerve-wracking. Seeing people live (and not on-screen) delighting in the pleasures of the flesh can be hard to fully prepare for. When I first started exploring the sex club/swinging. ...
Read MoreHave you ever searched “premature ejaculation treatment” on the web? If so, you would come across a wide array of information. Spanning from medications, creams, techniques, and exercises. Premature Ejaculation = PE With so many options, how do you know where to. ...
Read MoreIt’s happened to all of us at some point. Day in, day out, you’re living a nice, predictable life with all your ducks in a row. Then, life throws you a curveball that changes everything, including your sex life. In 2017, I fell off. ...
Read MoreWhen I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...
Read MoreBY SUGAR August 5th, 2010 The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don’t fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love. Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part. ...
Read MoreThere is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...
Read MoreAt the beginning of last year, I had a brilliant idea: I want to create an online video course for clients who struggle with premature ejaculation. After all, I’ve received calls from men all over the world who felt they were doomed to a. ...
Read MoreI’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...
Read More“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” ~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~ “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’. ...
Read MoreIn my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...
Read MoreWe have come to be danced not the pretty dance not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance but the claw our way back into the belly of the sacred, sensual animal dance the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance. ...
Read MoreGetting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...
Read MoreWhat if I told you that you’re missing out on life? You are missing out on opportunities to meet “the one,” or ones. You’ve already missed out on cool, interesting conversations with people and possibly life-changing experiences. You might wonder why – how could. ...
Read MoreI want to offer you the natural premature ejaculation treatment plan that has helped countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male performance struggles, I have witnessed first-hand the difficulties (and triumphs) of many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. From. ...
Read MoreSo often, we need a little break. A break from work, our relationship, our family ~ just from life. Many of us are unable (or do not want to) just pack up and leave our lives, yet we do need moments of retreat, release. ...
Read MoreMy teacher John Welwood was recently published in post about love and relationships for Lion’s Roar. The work was adapted from a talk given at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. The whole article is fantastic and you can find it. ...
Read MoreWhen a couples shows up in my office and we start exploring where things went wrong and how can they fix the issue or issues at hand, I lean into the three main facets of the modern relationship that most people have come to. ...
Read More“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...
Read MoreFind out in 7 easy questions if you and your partner need to book an appointment with sex therapist. It’s difficult to know when it’s become time to see an expert for advice in your relationship. Romantic relationships naturally go through up and downs. ...
Read MoreA year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he’d been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing. ...
Read MoreMany men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are. ...
Read MoreA waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...
Read MoreYou should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...
Read MoreAre there any benefits from lasting longer or withholding ejaculation? Someone recently wrote in a question: What are your thoughts on male orgasm and eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m curious about how holding back. ...
Read MoreFantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...
Read MoreBody Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of. ...
Read MoreHow to be a good lover – amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people;. ...
Read MoreI hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you. ...
Read MorePassion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...
Read More“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I. ...
Read MoreSexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about. ...
Read MoreLet’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...
Read MoreWhen I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...
Read MoreMost of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...
Read MoreMany of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...
Read MoreMany people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...
Read MoreMen being bullied is such a huge part of the boyhood experience it is seen as normal. A punch in the arm from a friend, wrestling to see who’s stronger, a dog pile. Some might say that is just how boys are. Sometimes, I. ...
Read MoreWe recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...
Read MoreDo you know there is something called your ‘core erotic theme’? Jack Morin wrote this insightful book for anyone that wants to better understand themselves sexually and delve deeper into what turns them on and why. Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific. ...
Read More