It’s happened to all of us at some point. Day in, day out, you’re living a nice, predictable life with all your ducks in a row. Then, life throws you a curveball that changes everything, including your sex life. In 2017, I fell off. ...
Read More
When I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...
Read More
BY SUGAR August 5th, 2010 The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don’t fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love. Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part. ...
Read More
There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...
Read More
At the beginning of last year, I had a brilliant idea: I want to create an online video course for clients who struggle with premature ejaculation. After all, I’ve received calls from men all over the world who felt they were doomed to a. ...
Read More
I’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...
Read More
“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” ~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~ “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’. ...
Read More
In my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...
Read More
We have come to be danced not the pretty dance not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance but the claw our way back into the belly of the sacred, sensual animal dance the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance. ...
Read More
An Introduction to Sex as Meditation: How to turn the erotic into a mindfulness practice. One of the core beliefs of ‘Sex As Meditation’ is that erotic energy and sexuality are lenses that we can use to deepen into the experience of being human. This. ...
Read More
Up-Coming Workshops Intro | May 12th Are you curious about the intersection of meditation and sexuality? We want to help you feel the power of bringing mindfulness into your erotic world. More info on Intro Social Norms | June 9 Bring mindful attention to how you are trapped. ...
Read More
Have you been curious about what the most common questions of men who struggle to control their ejaculation are? so do many people. below is a compilation of the most common questions I get. – How long do men typically sustain erections (what is. ...
Read More
Step 5 The fifth and final step (which is often already happening if you’re practicing the four steps before) is to let the energy that builds in your cock move through the rest of the body. Imagine the energy moving When you are masturbating. ...
Read More
Step 4 ‘Sweet Spot’ Step 4 is learning where your “sweet spot” is on your arousal curve. When you first start working on ejaculation control, your sweet spot is going to be much lower than after you’ve gained more confidence. Meaning when you first. ...
Read More
Getting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...
Read More
What if I told you that you’re missing out on life? You are missing out on opportunities to meet “the one,” or ones. You’ve already missed out on cool, interesting conversations with people and possibly life-changing experiences. You might wonder why – how could. ...
Read More
Step 3 The next step is learning your curves. The two curves you’ll need to better understand for ejaculation control is the arousal curve and anxiety curve. I refer to both scales 1 through 10, 1 being low and 10 being the high. The arousal. ...
Read More
Step 2 This next step is learning ‘anal breath.’ Most people look at me like I am literally crazy when I start talking about how your asshole and how tight you are clenching is one of the most important tool in learning to control. ...
Read More
What is the strategy you can actually apply in order to control your ejaculation? First, before you start any sexual experience, whether it’s masturbating or with a partner, you want to make sure you use the bathroom. Like earlier when you learned about the fight. ...
Read More
I’ll say it again (and again, and again) – I believe all men can learn to control their orgasm. YOU CAN DO IT! I mention this again because all too often I hear stories about men who have given up on sex and dating. ...
Read More
So often, we need a little break. A break from work, our relationship, our family ~ just from life. Many of us are unable (or do not want to) just pack up and leave our lives, yet we do need moments of retreat, release. ...
Read More
My teacher John Welwood was recently published in post about love and relationships for Lion’s Roar. The work was adapted from a talk given at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. The whole article is fantastic and you can find it. ...
Read More
Early Ejaculation Psychological Factors One of the biggest psychological factors you may be facing if you’re struggling with early ejaculation is feeling like pleasure is not important or welcomed – especially as it relates to your body. Many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. ...
Read More
Are ejaculating right away and or losing your erection? I want to help you learn another option ~ experience your arousal without anxiety. That is what my premature ejaculation treatment approach is all about. Arousal Without Anxiety My goal is to help you understand your. ...
Read More
When a couples shows up in my office and we start exploring where things went wrong and how can they fix the issue or issues at hand, I lean into the three main facets of the modern relationship that most people have come to. ...
Read More
I want to offer you the premature ejaculation treatment plan that I have used to help countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male sexual issues, I have witnessed first-hand the struggles and triumphs of many men who struggle with premature. ...
Read More
“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...
Read More
Coming Soon! LOVE | LUST | YOGA Breathe new life and romance into your partnership Are you a couple that wants to feel strong and flexible, playful and sexy in your yoga practice AND your relationship? Then join Keeley Rankin, MA and Robin Wilner,. ...
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Embracing the Spark of Our Desire, November 12th RSVP Learn how to hold your fantasies in conscious, loving and an inviting way. What really turns you on? How do you share this with your lover? Are you keeping your fantasies a secret – even from yourself?. ...
Read More
Find out in 7 easy questions if you and your partner need to book an appointment with sex therapist. It’s difficult to know when it’s become time to see an expert for advice in your relationship. Romantic relationships naturally go through up and downs. ...
Read More
A year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he’d been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing. ...
Read More
Many men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are. ...
Read More
A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...
Read More
Unleash Your Seductive Nature Saturday, September 10, 2016 from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM Location: The Women’s Building, 3543 18th Street #8 San Francisco To register, click HERE Do you feel an enormous pressure to be ‘sexy,’ yet don’t connect with truly feeling ‘sexy’ in your body? You. ...
Read More
Understanding Male Sexual Dysfunction: for therapists and coaches Saturday, August 6, 2016 from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM Location: 3150 18th st. San Francisco 94110 To sign up, click HERE Have your clients brought up a sexual dysfunction and you have very little knowledge. ...
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Sex as Meditation: Embracing the Spark of Our Desire Saturday, September 24, 2016 from 1:00 PM to 5:00 PM Location: 3150 18th st., San Francisco, CA 94110 Click HERE to sign up What really turns you on and how do you communicate that with. ...
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You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...
Read MoreLasting longer – are there benefits of withholding ejaculation during orgasm? A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking. ...
Read More
Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...
Read More
Body Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of. ...
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To learn more or connect with the community, please visit us as: www.facebook.com/sexasmeditation -Sunday, May 17th 2015 1:30 pm to 7 pm -Saturday, May 23th 2015 10:30 am to 4:30 pm Community Miracles Center, San Francisco What if our desires could be embraced? What. ...
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How to be a good lover – amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people;. ...
Read More
I hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you. ...
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Passion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...
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“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I. ...
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Sexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about. ...
Read More
Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...
Read MoreTo learn more or connect with the community, please visit us as: www.facebook.com/sexasmeditation To RSVP: October 18th , October 26th October 18th 1 – 4 pm and October 26th 2 -5 pm Community Miracles Center, San Francisco As humans, sexuality is our most intimate. ...
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When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...
Read More
Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...
Read More
Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...
Read More
Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...
Read More
Men being bullied is such a huge part of the boyhood experience it is seen as normal. A punch in the arm from a friend, wrestling to see who’s stronger, a dog pile. Some might say that is just how boys are. Sometimes, I. ...
Read More
We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...
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Do you know there is something called your ‘core erotic theme’? Jack Morin wrote this insightful book for anyone that wants to better understand themselves sexually and delve deeper into what turns them on and why. Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific. ...
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It’s happened to all of us at some point. Day in, day out, you’re living a nice, predictable life with all your ducks in a row. Then, life throws you a curveball that changes everything, including your sex life. In 2017, I fell off. ...
Read MoreWhen I hit the ground, I thought “No, this is not happening.” In my years of riding, I have fallen off more horses than I can count. I’ve been rolled on, stepped on, thrown into fences, trees – you name it. Almost every situation. ...
Read MoreBY SUGAR August 5th, 2010 The folks who show up in my office often feel like they are somehow unfit for love. They don’t fit the physical mold of what society has deemed presentable, lovable, worthy of love. Yet, somewhere inside them lives the part. ...
Read MoreThere is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...
Read MoreAt the beginning of last year, I had a brilliant idea: I want to create an online video course for clients who struggle with premature ejaculation. After all, I’ve received calls from men all over the world who felt they were doomed to a. ...
Read MoreI’ve been thinking a lot about sex clubs lately. You know, adults enjoying “adult” time with other like-minded individuals. Unfortunately, San Francisco — and most of the US — is sorely lacking in this type of entertainment…but Paris? Ooh la la! The City of. ...
Read More“I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.” ~ C.S. Lewis, Irish author and poet~ “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’. ...
Read MoreIn my practice, I talk often with clients on the topic of dating – especially online dating. I’ve had the pleasure to see so many new relationships bud and people fall madly in love. I have also seen dating go all wrong. Needless to say,. ...
Read MoreWe have come to be danced not the pretty dance not the pretty pretty, pick me, pick me dance but the claw our way back into the belly of the sacred, sensual animal dance the unhinged, unplugged, cat is out of its box dance. ...
Read MoreAn Introduction to Sex as Meditation: How to turn the erotic into a mindfulness practice. One of the core beliefs of ‘Sex As Meditation’ is that erotic energy and sexuality are lenses that we can use to deepen into the experience of being human. This. ...
Read MoreUp-Coming Workshops Intro | May 12th Are you curious about the intersection of meditation and sexuality? We want to help you feel the power of bringing mindfulness into your erotic world. More info on Intro Social Norms | June 9 Bring mindful attention to how you are trapped. ...
Read MoreHave you been curious about what the most common questions of men who struggle to control their ejaculation are? so do many people. below is a compilation of the most common questions I get. – How long do men typically sustain erections (what is. ...
Read MoreStep 5 The fifth and final step (which is often already happening if you’re practicing the four steps before) is to let the energy that builds in your cock move through the rest of the body. Imagine the energy moving When you are masturbating. ...
Read MoreStep 4 ‘Sweet Spot’ Step 4 is learning where your “sweet spot” is on your arousal curve. When you first start working on ejaculation control, your sweet spot is going to be much lower than after you’ve gained more confidence. Meaning when you first. ...
Read MoreGetting stuck chasing the your orgasm is something many of us are familiar with. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. Both people have to reach climax, right? With all their splendor and glory, orgasms. ...
Read MoreWhat if I told you that you’re missing out on life? You are missing out on opportunities to meet “the one,” or ones. You’ve already missed out on cool, interesting conversations with people and possibly life-changing experiences. You might wonder why – how could. ...
Read MoreStep 3 The next step is learning your curves. The two curves you’ll need to better understand for ejaculation control is the arousal curve and anxiety curve. I refer to both scales 1 through 10, 1 being low and 10 being the high. The arousal. ...
Read MoreStep 2 This next step is learning ‘anal breath.’ Most people look at me like I am literally crazy when I start talking about how your asshole and how tight you are clenching is one of the most important tool in learning to control. ...
Read MoreWhat is the strategy you can actually apply in order to control your ejaculation? First, before you start any sexual experience, whether it’s masturbating or with a partner, you want to make sure you use the bathroom. Like earlier when you learned about the fight. ...
Read MoreI’ll say it again (and again, and again) – I believe all men can learn to control their orgasm. YOU CAN DO IT! I mention this again because all too often I hear stories about men who have given up on sex and dating. ...
Read MoreSo often, we need a little break. A break from work, our relationship, our family ~ just from life. Many of us are unable (or do not want to) just pack up and leave our lives, yet we do need moments of retreat, release. ...
Read MoreMy teacher John Welwood was recently published in post about love and relationships for Lion’s Roar. The work was adapted from a talk given at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. The whole article is fantastic and you can find it. ...
Read MoreEarly Ejaculation Psychological Factors One of the biggest psychological factors you may be facing if you’re struggling with early ejaculation is feeling like pleasure is not important or welcomed – especially as it relates to your body. Many men who struggle with premature ejaculation. ...
Read MoreAre ejaculating right away and or losing your erection? I want to help you learn another option ~ experience your arousal without anxiety. That is what my premature ejaculation treatment approach is all about. Arousal Without Anxiety My goal is to help you understand your. ...
Read MoreWhen a couples shows up in my office and we start exploring where things went wrong and how can they fix the issue or issues at hand, I lean into the three main facets of the modern relationship that most people have come to. ...
Read MoreI want to offer you the premature ejaculation treatment plan that I have used to help countless men. As a sex and relationship expert specializing in male sexual issues, I have witnessed first-hand the struggles and triumphs of many men who struggle with premature. ...
Read More“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...
Read MoreComing Soon! LOVE | LUST | YOGA Breathe new life and romance into your partnership Are you a couple that wants to feel strong and flexible, playful and sexy in your yoga practice AND your relationship? Then join Keeley Rankin, MA and Robin Wilner,. ...
Read MoreEmbracing the Spark of Our Desire, November 12th RSVP Learn how to hold your fantasies in conscious, loving and an inviting way. What really turns you on? How do you share this with your lover? Are you keeping your fantasies a secret – even from yourself?. ...
Read MoreFind out in 7 easy questions if you and your partner need to book an appointment with sex therapist. It’s difficult to know when it’s become time to see an expert for advice in your relationship. Romantic relationships naturally go through up and downs. ...
Read MoreA year ago, I met up with a dear friend for dinner on the East Coast. It had been a few years since we connected; he is very busy person. That year, he’d been working on a PBS documentary around intimacy, traveling the world, interviewing. ...
Read MoreMany men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are. ...
Read MoreA waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...
Read MoreUnleash Your Seductive Nature Saturday, September 10, 2016 from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM Location: The Women’s Building, 3543 18th Street #8 San Francisco To register, click HERE Do you feel an enormous pressure to be ‘sexy,’ yet don’t connect with truly feeling ‘sexy’ in your body? You. ...
Read MoreUnderstanding Male Sexual Dysfunction: for therapists and coaches Saturday, August 6, 2016 from 2:00 PM to 4:00 PM Location: 3150 18th st. San Francisco 94110 To sign up, click HERE Have your clients brought up a sexual dysfunction and you have very little knowledge. ...
Read MoreSex as Meditation: Embracing the Spark of Our Desire Saturday, September 24, 2016 from 1:00 PM to 5:00 PM Location: 3150 18th st., San Francisco, CA 94110 Click HERE to sign up What really turns you on and how do you communicate that with. ...
Read MoreYou should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...
Read MoreLasting longer – are there benefits of withholding ejaculation during orgasm? A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking. ...
Read MoreFantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...
Read MoreBody Acceptance : Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You? Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of. ...
Read MoreTo learn more or connect with the community, please visit us as: www.facebook.com/sexasmeditation -Sunday, May 17th 2015 1:30 pm to 7 pm -Saturday, May 23th 2015 10:30 am to 4:30 pm Community Miracles Center, San Francisco What if our desires could be embraced? What. ...
Read MoreHow to be a good lover – amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people;. ...
Read MoreI hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you. ...
Read MorePassion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...
Read More“I can live for two months on a good compliment.” – Mark Twain Compliments: The Power of Compliments and how to give them Complimenting someone else is one of my favorite things to do. If I see something I like about a person, I. ...
Read MoreSexless Relationship? How Did We Get Here? Living Like Roommates. The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about. ...
Read MoreLet’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...
Read MoreTo learn more or connect with the community, please visit us as: www.facebook.com/sexasmeditation To RSVP: October 18th , October 26th October 18th 1 – 4 pm and October 26th 2 -5 pm Community Miracles Center, San Francisco As humans, sexuality is our most intimate. ...
Read MoreWhen I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...
Read MoreMost of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...
Read MoreMany of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...
Read MoreMany people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...
Read MoreMen being bullied is such a huge part of the boyhood experience it is seen as normal. A punch in the arm from a friend, wrestling to see who’s stronger, a dog pile. Some might say that is just how boys are. Sometimes, I. ...
Read MoreWe recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...
Read MoreDo you know there is something called your ‘core erotic theme’? Jack Morin wrote this insightful book for anyone that wants to better understand themselves sexually and delve deeper into what turns them on and why. Challenging accepted theories about what makes for terrific. ...
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