“Change will often come from introducing the least obvious idea.” ~ Esther Perrel
I utilize a holistic approach that combines talk therapy, body based exercises and mindful touch. It is my belief that the more traditional talk therapy alone limits progress in the realm of sex, erotic energy and desire. This is because our sexuality is experienced through our bodies sensations, thus we will use your whole body to help your learning process in sessions. The process of going through the body allows us to quickly uncover the core of what is holding you back from the sexual and passionate experiences you want.
My central belief is that our bodies are our instruments for sexual connection. We must learn our instruments, play them proficiently, know our inner music, teach others how to play us and learn how to play music together. Struggles arise when we become out of tune. It is often a combination of variables that cause us to disconnect from our bodies and our erotic energy: difficult relationships, societal and cultural expectations, unprocessed childhood wounds, and daily life stress and distraction. It is in the present moment that these old patterns can shift. Real-time practical exercises combined with mindfulness bridges the awareness gap. Allowing for mindful clarity, integration and lasting transformation both in body and mind. In sessions, I’ll help you to find your own sensuality, wisdom, confidence, creativity, playfulness and freedom.
- Master in Counseling Psychology with a Focus in Marriage and Family Therapy and an Emphasis in Holistic Studies. John F. Kennedy University, 2014
- Masters Thesis: Surrogate Partner Therapy
- BA in Psychology. University of California, Irvine. 2008
- The Healing Power of Unconditional Presence; Integrating Spiritual, Psychological and Embodiment Work. Ongoing Group; John Welwood, PhD., 2012 – present
- Sessions with Esther Perel. Online community forum for therapist, coaches and educators. Esther Perel, 2016 – present
- Embodied Love and Lovemaking: A Full-Spectrum Neurobiological-Gestalt (FSG)Training In Embodied Relational Sex Therapy. Stella Resnick, 2018
- The Hakomi Character Map. Hakomi Institute of California, 2017
- Teacher’s Assistant. Hakomi – Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy; California Institute of Integral Studies, 2017
- Somatica Professional Couples Training. Somatica® Institute, 2016
- Attending to Attachment; Mindfulness Based Approaches to Healing Adult Attachment. Hakomi Institute of California, 2016
- Hakomi Professional Training. Hakomi Institute of California, 2014
- Certified Somatica Practitioner. Somatica® Institute, 2014
- Somatica Professional Training. Somatica® Institute, 2013
- Certified Queer Conscious Educator. John F. Kennedy University, 2013
- Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, 2010
Below you can learn more about the trainings I mostly draw from and how they apply in sessions:
The Somatica® Method
As a Certified Somatica® Practitioner, I am expertly trained to help you with both sexuality and romantic relationships. I specialize in subtly of erotic connections and learning the differences between sex and intimacy. While most sex therapy can help sex get “better” and communication become easier, I will help lead you to unbelievable sex and lasting satisfaction that will fulfill and energize you for years to come.
Unlike traditional sex therapy, instead of discussing theory and sending you home to practice and report back, we will practice in session, gaining expertise and skill that you can immediately implement in your life.
Somatica® is a revolutionary non-traditional intimacy coaching method. Offering an interactive and experiential approach to better relationships, love, and connection based on the neuroscience of how people learn. This interactive style of therapy offers you an opportunity to experience secure attachment. Secure attachment helps you to increase your sense of self worth and ‘I’m worth with’ beliefs that are critical for fulfilling sex. Many people have not experienced the safety, relaxation and freedom that secure attachment offers. For adults, a holistic experience of attachment includes intimacy and erotic connection.
In session out sex therapy sessions, using the Somatica® techniques of ‘bringing the relationship directly into the room’ we can quickly explore the obstacles that stand in the way of you bringing yourself fully to the relationships you have or desire to have.
To learn more about the Somatica® Method, please visit the www.somaticainstitute.com
The great challenge in our busy world is to stay connected with ourselves—with our bodily felt experience, our living wisdom, our sensitivity and our depth. In my training with John, I have learned how to help you directly addresses these challenges of connection through teaching you to develop greater presence in body, speech, and mind and to connect with yourself, your awareness, and your felt experience in a fully embodied way.
John’s work is largely experiential, drawing on embodiment exercises, aimed at cultivating embodied presence and awareness. In this subtle body approach to self-love, we will help to open up your body to the flow of love, along with unpacking mental and emotional patterns blocking this flow.
John Welwood, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, an editor of The Journal of Transpersonal Psychology, and teacher whose innovative approach integrates psychological, meditative, and embodiment work. In the 1980’s, John Welwood emerged as the major figure in field of psychology publishing more than fifty articles and nine books on relationship, psychotherapy, consciousness, and personal change. His best-seller, Journey of the Heart was the first book to lay out the path of conscious relationship and is widely regarded as the most profound book on intimate relationship available.
Since 2012, I have had the honor and pleasure of assisting John Welwood in his ongoing meditation group, The Healing Power of Unconditional Presence. I was first fascinated with John’s work because of his very influential book on romantic love, Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart. Winner of the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award, along with other honored authors, including Jimmy Carter, Deepak Chopra, and His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
In my sex therapy sessions, I lean into John’s simple wisdom and incredibly rich view of what is truly possible in intimate relationships, how we get stuck and how to make the changes that lead to fulfillment and meaning. Transformed personally and professionally, he has helped me to more deeply understand woundings of the heart, the needs and intricacies of intimate relationships and how to hold the ambiguities of the human life and psyche.
To learn more about John Welwood, please visit his website at: www.johnwelwood.com
I am trained in the methods of Hakomi Therapy techniques which are exceptionally effective tools for following sensations, feelings, and bodily tensions to the unconscious beliefs and attitudes that limit our responses and drive our behavior. When applying these techniques to sexual aspects, we can uncover core beliefs about ourselves and the world around us, helping to unlock the places within us that have been previously unreachable. Allowing for the freedom and openness that we need to have incredible sex lives.
Hakomi Therapy is a Mindfulness-Centered Somatic Psychotherapy method based on principles of Mindfulness, Nonviolence, Unity, Organicity and Mind-Body Integration. For the last 30 years Hakomi, has been leading the field in experiential, body-centered, somatic psychotherapy.
Hakomi Therapy is based on a few key assumptions:
- As we develop from infancy to childhood to adulthood, we organize our experiences by apply meaning to them, to the world, and to ourselves;
- These organizational decisions come to operate as unconscious “core beliefs” about the world and our place in it which govern how we think, feel, develop, act, respond, and create;
- These core beliefs limit our ability to function spontaneously and to live effectively through systematic, characterological habits which we originally created to avoid feeling a lack of safety, affection, attention, or approval; and
- The purpose of therapy is to become fully human, alive, spontaneous, open-hearted and caring, with the ability to be equally effective acting in interdependence with the world or autonomously.
The framework of Hakomi translates into concrete clinical skills and thoughtfully designed interventions and experientials that will allow us to understand why you are blocked and move you towards more freedom and openness that is crucial for desire to flow and for passionate, fulfilling fun sex.