Premature Ejaculation and the 5 most common false beliefs

Many men who come into my office struggle with ejaculation issues. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common concerns. There are a few false beliefs I keep hearing. I’d like to set the record straight for all those folks out there who are struggling to control ejaculation. 

Myth: Premature ejaculation only affects young men.  You will grow out of it as you age.

Fact: Early ejaculation can be an issue at any age. It is not just a young guy’s problem. I have worked with men that range in age from 20 – 65. Some people do grow out of this struggle with age, although many men do not. Some men  may even develop control struggles later in life. For example, I was working with a man, who at age 40, started to cum very quickly. It was a combination of masturbating in a hurry and feeling like his wife wanted sex to be over. They were also having very infrequent sex. All of this led to stress in his body. When he would engage with his wife, he would ejaculate very quickly. With therapy and practice it took him about two months to gain the control he wanted.

 

Myth: Thinking about something not sexy will help you last longer.

Fact: My experience is that thinking about other things while having sex will not only take you out of the moment, but also will help you gain control. When you focus on something else you are now not only ejaculating fast, you are not even present enough to enjoy the short time you were having sex. I often wonder who came up with this crazy idea!

 

Myth: You just need to learn how to develop your Kegel muscles.

Fact: This is one of the most common misconceptions around premature ejaculation and learning control. In very few instances, have I worked with someone who had so little Kegal muscle control that they needed to develop the muscle. Needing to develop Kegel muscles has only been necessary when they have had trauma in the area – like surgery or infection. In many cases, the Kegel muscles are actually over-stressed and unable to relax. Learning how to relax the whole body, including your pelvic floor and Kegel muscles, has a lot to do with how long you will last. The more relaxed you can keep your body during arousal, the longer you will last.

 

Myth: You can fix this quickly.

Fact: Most men who I have worked with take between three weeks to two years to gain control over their ejaculation. In very few instances, I have witnessed men learn how to control the ejaculation in a week or two. How long it will take you depends on how severe your struggle is and how long you have been struggling. If you have ejaculated within 30 seconds for the last 10 years of your life (including while masturbating) it will probably take you around 3 to 4 months to gain control. I try to help people see that this investment of resources, time, energy, and money pays off in the end but you have to learn to be patient with your body.

 

Myth: For the ladies – he is doing it on purpose.

Fact: I can guarantee you – no man is trying to make the sexual experience end more quickly. One hundred percent of the men I have worked with have shared how embarrassing it is to cum so quickly and want to last longer. They are just not sure how to do that.

 

Learning to control your ejaculation is important not only for your partner’s pleasure, but also for your own pleasure. Being worried and anxious that you are going to cum right away keeps you from connecting and enjoying yourself.

To learn more about how to control your ejaculation, check out my Premature Ejaculation Audio Course. This audio course outlines the basic psychological and physiological blocks that get in the way of ejaculation control, as well as explains in depth my unique 5-step strategy that will allow you to slow down and get control over your arousal. I also walk you through how to use your breath to overcome that tension so your body can relax while arousal is building.

Here’s to more successful and fun sexual experiences,

Keeley

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3 thoughts on “Premature Ejaculation and the 5 most common false beliefs

  1. Hi Thomas, sounds like you have quite a bit of discomfort currently around your sexual word. I do help people who present with similar struggles as yourself. I’d be happy to help you get to a place where you feel less addicted to porn and gain a more positive body image. Please feel free to contact me via my contact sheet. Happy you wrote. Keeley

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