PREMATURE EJACULATION Part 4: All Men can Learn Control over their Orgasm

I’ll say it again (and again, and again) – I believe all men can learn to control their orgasm.

YOU CAN DO IT!

I mention this again because all too often I hear stories about men who have given up on sex and dating because nothing has worked for them. The endless internet searches have left them feeling more isolate and convinced they will always have this struggle. The fear and shame of talking about this sensitive topic keeps many people from getting help. That bums me out because this is a fixable issue!

How do I know if it’s working?

It is important to keep in mind as you set goals for yourself to know that this process is not linear. You won’t necessarily go from a – b – c – d. Some people will, while others might feel like they are making very little progress and then all the sudden make huge leaps.

Most men take about 2 months to learn ejaculation control. When working with me, I recommend that we meet weekly, which works out to about 8 sessions.

For less extreme cases, people can learn control in 3 sessions, in more extreme cases, people might see me for 6 months to 2 years to learn control over your orgasm.

If this is something you have chosen to tackle on your own, it might take you longer, so be patient with yourself.

Patience and consistency will pay off

What is the state of mind you are coming to this from? Are you hoping you’ll learn ejaculation control in a day, a week, 2 weeks? It is important the state of mind you come to this with. You have to allow yourself to enter in with a beginner’s state of mind because you are actually going to be teaching your body a new way of relating to arousal and experiencing pleasure.

If you get caught up in doing it all exactly right, in a linear fashion, and not allowing yourself to make mistakes, this will be a much longer process. Your body needs to have time to learn the new plan — you are essentially creating a neural network in your brain, so you have give yourself some breathing room (literally and metaphorically).

This is a framework for ejaculation control

In the next section of this course, I will be presenting an approach that will feel linear, but should be looked at more like a framework to control your orgasm.

Keeping this in mind will help you stay on course and keep expectations about your own progress in line as you may have to take one step back to take two steps forward.

To re-iterate what I said at the beginning: I have developed this unique strategy through my sessions with clients to help you feel more comfortable with building your arousal and deepening your pleasure leading to longer lasting and more positive sexual experiences.

I will give you the basic tools you need, but your own pleasure will always be your best guide to confidence and fulfillment.

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