Tag Archives: relationships

My First Client Question

My First Client Question

There is one question I want to know in the first session with a new client, “What makes you difficult to be in relationship with?” This question helps me better understand many things about how this clients relationship experiences are unfolding. How self- reflective and. ...

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When One Person Wants More Sex Than The Other

When One Person Wants More Sex Than The Other

“I want more sex then they do,” is a statement that I here often. It’s a common reason couples come to see me for sex coaching and it’s also a conversation I have with many of my friends. Misaligned sex drives are one of. ...

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14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

14 Ways Couples Stay Sexually Connected

A waning sexual connection can be one of the toughest challenges of a long-term relationship. Yet, while it is a common issue, some couples remain sexually content or manage to maintain their chemistry. What have couples who report being sexually satisfied figured out? What are. ...

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How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life

How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how. ...

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Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly. ...

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Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It

Passion: Find It and Keep It Remember the beginning of your relationship, all those feelings of passion? You were lustful and excited about getting to know the other person. You stayed up all night talking endlessly, and a mere look or slight touch turned. ...

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Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult. ...

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To Flirt Or To Fuck?

To Flirt Or To Fuck?

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with. ...

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After The Honeymoon Phase

After The Honeymoon Phase

Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns. ...

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Too much of a good thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Too much of a good thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding. ...

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Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are. ...

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Desire Reboot

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find. ...

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