All of us want to feel healthy and beautiful, bringing a sense of uninhibited sexuality into the bedroom. Why is it so difficult sometimes? The assumption in our culture is, because you are a woman, you will know how to navigate the rocky terrain of intimacy, sex and relationships. As a sex therapist, I too often see how this assumption has played out in women’s lives. We are expected to know what we like, how we like it, what turns us on and, what gets us off. But in the heat of the moment, we rarely find ourselves exploring those desires, ignoring the quiet chatter inside which asks, “Is this really all there is?”
Many of us struggle with this because sex and intimacy, choosing partners and navigating relationships is rarely taught or explained to us while we are growing up. For a lot of us, healthy relating and sexuality were not modeled in our families. Many of us are left to make it up as we go along.
Daily, women are bombarded with mixed messages about sex. This mixed messages only distances us from knowing what true pleasure is in our bodies. There is enormous pressure to be ‘sexy.’ Yet, most of us never really understand what ‘sexy’ feels like in our bodies. Pleasure is often overlooked because of shame, fear, body image, and not having experiences allowing open communication.
The number one reason women show up in my office is reported low sexual desire. Simply, not being interested in sex because “What’s in it for me?” I want to help you more deeply understand yourself sexually. You can wake up to your desire and learning what is in sex for you!
You are sexy!
In sex therapy sessions, we will work at your own pace helping you more deeply understand your patterns. Helping you move toward your pleasure, finding your unique sexy.