SEX, INTIMACY & RELATIONSHIP COACH

About Keeley

My Background

As a leading sex & relationship coach based in San Francisco, I’ve been helping individuals and couples break through intimacy barriers and experience life-changing sex since 2010. With a Master’s in Counseling Psychology focused on Marriage and Family Therapy from John F. Kennedy University, I bring both expertise and passion to every session, helping you unlock profound, mind-blowing connections.

I’m also the co-founder of BetterSexEd.org and co-creator of Sex as Meditation, an innovative workshop that blends mindfulness with pleasure (because who says mindfulness can’t be sexy?).

In addition to my formal training, I’m a Certified Mindfulness Teacher, Somatica® Method Practitioner (a body-based approach to deep, authentic connection), Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and a Certified Queer Conscious Educator. My background also includes training in Hakomi Therapy (a somatic and mindfulness-based method) and Recreation of the Self, a system that helps you show up as your most authentic self in relationships

From 2009 to 2019, I had the privilege of assisting the late John Welwood, a renowned psychotherapist and pioneer in bridging psychology and spirituality. I also lead workshops on male sexual difficulties for therapists and coaches, and mentoring the next generation of sex coaches, empowering them to spread the message of sexual liberation.

I’m also the creator of two online best-sellers: Keeley's Sex Class and Premature Ejaculation Mastery —both designed to transform your erotic life and help you experience sex in a whole new way.

My Practice

Sexuality has always fascinated me. I wasn’t raised in an environment where open conversations about sex were the norm, yet for as long as I can remember, talking about sexuality and erotic pleasure has felt completely natural for me.

Alongside my passion for sex, I grew up with a love for horseback riding. This has given me two invaluable skills: an innate ability to read the unspoken language of the body and a deep understanding of how the body can be used as a tool for communication. These qualities have shaped my work today as a sex therapist and relationship coach, allowing me to seamlessly blend open discussions about vulnerability with the body’s silent cues.

Over the years, I’ve developed a specialization in male sexual health, focusing on issues such as premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and general sexual competency. My work helps men not only overcome physical challenges, but also gain greater self-awareness and become more confident lovers. I also help men navigate the shame and sensitivity that often accompany emotionally charged sexual issues.

I chose to specialize in male sexuality because I saw a clear need for men to feel truly understood and receive practical, effective help for sexual challenges. These topics are widely misunderstood and rarely addressed in a meaningful way. But with the right support and information, men can overcome physiological, psychological, and emotional sexual issues and heal in ways they’ve been led to believe weren’t possible.

In addition to working with men, I also guide women and couples to unlock their full sexual potential. This involves exploring and intensifying their desires, enhancing bodily awareness, releasing old self-concepts, and discovering new, exciting ways to connect with one another.

One of the most profound and vulnerable experiences of being human, in my view, is the ability to share yourself fully with another person—naked, defenseless, and open, both physically and emotionally. To express our erotic energy and desires is to feel fully alive. This truth has been at the core of my work, and I truly believe that everyone deserves to experience this level of freedom and connection.

My Passion

It is my deepest passion to help people rediscover and expand the pleasure in their lives. In many ways, our modern world is pleasure-starved—surrounded by abundance, yet increasingly disconnected. We're fed a narrow, often limiting view of what eroticism and sexuality can truly be. Untangling this confusion and guiding individuals to reconnect with their authentic selves is at the heart of what I do.

I am devoted to helping people cultivate erotic confidence—to tap into the energy of eros, to feel fully alive in their bodies, and to embrace the playful, joyful side of sex. Sex is meant to be fun, full of curiosity, and freedom. It’s about building competency, exploring desires, and celebrating what makes us feel truly vibrant.

It’s a true privilege to be invited into the intimate world of my clients. The courage it takes to look inward, to examine the deep places where vulnerability lives, is something I deeply honor. My work is to celebrate that bravery, to encourage it, and to help expand their capacity for real, adult sexual and emotional connections.

When my clients heal their sexual blocks, it’s nothing short of transformative. They change from the inside out—walking, talking, even carrying themselves differently. The relationships around them shift, and their entire perspective of life evolves. There’s an undeniable power in reconnecting with your body and your erotic self.

I am continually in awe of the transformations I witness, and it’s a true privilege to be part of this life-changing work. My clients inspire me every day—encouraging me to be more open-minded, more present, and more deeply engaged in my own life.

This exchange is not just about what I teach; it’s about what I learn from them, too. Together, we create a space for growth, healing, and deeper connection.

My Approach

Many people see sex as something spontaneous, an organic experience that just happens in the moment. While that’s a beautiful part of it, I believe that sex, at its best, is more like a musical composition—something you craft and shape over time, with both intention and flow. And just like any instrument, your body requires care, practice, and attention to perform at its highest potential.

Think of your body as a finely tuned instrument. It thrives when given the time and space to explore, learn, and grow. To truly understand your inner music and connect with others, you need to step outside of your comfort zone and embrace new techniques, new ways of being, and new forms of connection. A satisfying, sustainable sex life isn’t about relying on one simple approach or trick—it’s about cultivating a deeper understanding of yourself, your desires, and the rhythm that creates pleasure for both you and your partner.

I believe in a holistic approach—one that integrates talk therapy, body-based exercises, and mindful touch. From my experience, relying solely on traditional talk therapy often falls short in addressing the complexities of sex, erotic energy, and desire. True, lasting pleasure requires engaging not just your mind, but your entire body—opening yourself to the full range of what you can feel, give, and receive. It’s about exploring all the erotic possibilities that exist within you, so you can experience a deeper, more fulfilling connection—one that transcends the physical and touches something truly profound.

In our sessions, I will guide you on a deeply personal journey of self-discovery, where we will explore not only your body but also your mind, uncovering the blocks that may be preventing you from experiencing the passionate, fulfilling connection you deserve.

Together, we’ll address the challenges that arise when your body and erotic energy become out of sync. There are countless factors that can cause us to disconnect from our natural sensuality: difficult relationships, societal pressures, unresolved childhood wounds, and the daily stressors that weigh us down. These barriers often leave us feeling disconnected from our true desires and our own bodies.

Through a blend of practical exercises and mindful techniques, I’ll help you break free from the old patterns that have been holding you back from sexual fulfillment. We’ll work to reawaken your sensuality, deepen your self-awareness, and nurture your confidence, creativity, playfulness, and sense of freedom. Together, we’ll reconnect you to your body’s wisdom and your full erotic potential.

Along with my education and professional training, I draw inspiration from the wisdom of my mentors, influential thinkers in the fields of relationships and sexuality, and, most profoundly, from my incredible clients. It is through their courage and commitment that I continue to learn and grow, creating a space of deep empathy, transformation, and healing.

Professional Accreditations

Academic Degree

Master in Counseling Psychology with a Focus in Marriage and Family Therapy and an Emphasis in Holistic Studies. John F. Kennedy University, 2013
Masters Thesis: Surrogate Partner Therapy
BA in Psychology. University of California, Irvine. 2008

Training & Continuing Education

Teacher’s Assistant: The Hakomi Character Map. Hakomi Institute of California, 2020
Gestalt: The Empty Chair Training. Gestalt Institute of San Francisco. 2020
Reclaiming Sensuality an Exploration Into the Erotic Blueprints. Korenna Reynard, PhD., 2020
Sessions with Esther Perel. Online community forum for therapist, coaches and educators. Esther Perel, 2016 – present
Re- Creation of The Self (R-CS) Advanced Training. Meta 2018-2019
The Healing Power of Unconditional Presence; Integrating Spiritual, Psychological and Embodiment Work. Ongoing Group; John Welwood, PhD., 2012 – 2019
Re- Creation of The Self Training. Hakomi Institute of California, 2018
Blueprint Breakthrough Course. Miss Jaiya. 2018
Embodied Love and Lovemaking: A Full-Spectrum Neurobiological-Gestalt (FSG)Training In Embodied Relational Sex Therapy. Stella Resnick, 2018
The Hakomi Character Map. Hakomi Institute of California, 2017
Teacher’s Assistant. Hakomi – Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy; California Institute of Integral Studies, 2017
Somatica Professional Couples Training. Somatica® Institute, 2016
Attending to Attachment; Mindfulness Based Approaches to Healing Adult Attachment. Hakomi Institute of California, 2016
Hakomi Professional Training. Hakomi Institute of California, 2014
Certified Somatica Practitioner. Somatica® Institute, 2013
Somatica Professional Training. Somatica® Institute, 2013
Certified Queer Conscious Educator. John F. Kennedy University, 2012
Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, 2010

As you can see, I draw from a diverse range of models to address the physical, psychological, sexual, and emotional needs of my clients. My commitment to ongoing education and openness to new therapeutic approaches allows me to offer a rich toolkit of skills tailored to each individual.

I believe in meeting my clients where they are, using whichever modality resonates most with their unique needs. Some of the most effective approaches can be considered unconventional, which is why I’ve chosen not to pursue licensure as a psychotherapist through the BBS. Instead, I primarily work with two influential models: Hakomi Therapy and the teachings of John Welwood. These frameworks guide my work, allowing me to support clients in a way that is both deeply transformative and personally attuned.

John Welwood

John Welwood’s work is deeply experiential, emphasizing embodiment exercises designed to cultivate presence, awareness, and a flow of self-love within the body. In this approach, we explore how to release the mental and emotional baggage that blocks the natural flow of love and connection, allowing you to fully experience your own body’s wisdom.

Since 2012, I’ve had the honor of assisting John Welwood in his ongoing meditation group, The Healing Power of Unconditional Presence. My fascination with his work began with his groundbreaking book, Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart. This award-winning book, recognized by the Books for a Better Life Award, alongside works by Deepak Chopra and His Holiness the Dalai Lama, profoundly shaped my approach to intimacy and emotional healing.

After John’s passing in 2019, the loss of my beloved mentor profoundly impacted me. It deepened my commitment to understanding and integrating his teachings, and has led me to dive even deeper into myself, expanding my practice to offer clients the depth of insight and healing that John’s work provides. While my personal journey with John continues, his teachings are woven into every client session, influencing and informing the way I guide others toward deeper intimacy and self-awareness.

In a world that often leaves us disconnected from our bodies and deeper selves, John’s work provides the tools to stay present, attuned to our bodies, and connected to our innermost wisdom. Through his teachings, I assist clients in cultivating a deeper relationship with their own bodies, minds, and emotional landscapes. This embodied awareness allows for greater connection to self, others, and to the richness of our physical and emotional experiences.

John Welwood, Ph.D., was a renowned clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and teacher. His innovative integration of psychological, meditative, and embodiment work has transformed the field of psychotherapy and relationships. In the 1980s, John emerged as a major figure in psychology, publishing more than 50 articles and nine books on relationships, consciousness, and personal transformation. His best-seller, Journey of the Heart, laid the foundation for conscious relationships and remains one of the most profound resources on intimacy.

In my sex therapy sessions, I apply John’s simple yet profound wisdom to help individuals and couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, heal emotional wounds, and make the necessary shifts that lead to more fulfilling and meaningful relationships. John’s teachings have deepened my understanding of the intricacies of human connection and how to live with the ambiguities of the heart, psyche, and life itself.

To learn more about John Welwood’s transformative work, visit his website at www.johnwelwood.com.

Hakomi Therapy

I am trained in Hakomi Therapy, a powerful approach that uses mindfulness and somatic techniques to uncover the unconscious beliefs and attitudes that shape our behavior and limit our responses. By following bodily sensations, emotions, and tensions, we can trace these limitations back to their core beliefs, particularly in relation to our sexuality.

When applied to sex and intimacy, Hakomi allows us to explore deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves and the world. This process helps us access parts of ourselves that may have been locked away, creating the freedom and openness necessary to unlock the potential for incredible, authentic sexual experiences.

Hakomi Therapy is a mindfulness-centered somatic psychotherapy that emphasizes mind-body integration, nonviolence, unity, and organic growth. For over 30 years, Hakomi has pioneered body-centered, experiential psychotherapy, offering a transformative approach to healing and self-discovery.

The core principles of Hakomi are based on several key assumptions:

As we grow, we organize our experiences and assign meaning to them, creating beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world.
These beliefs form unconscious "core beliefs" that govern how we think, feel, act, and respond in life, often limiting our potential.
These core beliefs are often rooted in past experiences where we created survival strategies to avoid feelings of inadequacy or lack of safety.
The goal of therapy is to become fully alive, spontaneous, open-hearted, and connected, with the ability to live in harmony with ourselves and the world around us.

In my practice, I’ve trained in specialized areas like Attending to Attachment (focused on adult attachment and healing) and The Hakomi Character Map. I also have the honor of being an assistant teacher for the Intro to Hakomi course at the California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS).

The beauty of the Hakomi framework is its ability to translate profound theoretical principles into tangible clinical skills and interventions. Through carefully designed exercises and experiential techniques, we can identify the blocks that hinder your sexual and emotional freedom, and work toward releasing them. This approach empowers you to reclaim your erotic potential and move toward a more passionate, fulfilling, and connected sex life.

Other modalities I draw from:

Re-Creation of The Self (R-CS), developed by John Eisman, is a transformative framework I integrate into my practice. R-CS is both a map for personal growth and a powerful tool for therapeutic change. It offers a comprehensive understanding of the self, helping clients navigate the challenges and difficulties of being human with more resilience. When applied to sexuality, R-CS helps individuals embrace their full sexual selves, fostering confidence and a deeper awareness of their desires and needs. It empowers people to step into their erotic potential with clarity and purpose.
As a Certified Somatica® Practitioner, I bring a relationship-focused approach into my work with couples and individuals. Somatica® therapy is centered around bringing real, raw connection directly into the room. For couples, this method helps overcome long-standing blocks and reignite desire by addressing the nuances of erotic connection and intimacy. For individuals, it provides the tools to unlock deeper sexual expression and address the core issues that impact their confidence and fulfillment. By addressing the subtleties of desire, intimacy, and the interplay between them, Somatica® offers a tangible path to healing and growth in your sexual life.
Another highly effective framework I incorporate is Jaiya's Blueprint Breakthrough Course. Jaiya's concept of sexual blueprints, akin to the 5 Love Languages but specifically for sex, helps individuals and couples understand their unique erotic styles. Learning your "type" allows you to understand your own sexual needs and desires more deeply, making it easier to communicate and become a better lover to your partner. Whether you're looking to enhance your own sexual life or improve your connection with others, this framework is an invaluable tool in creating profound shifts in sexual dynamics.
Each of these approaches offers a unique lens through which we can understand and transform your relationship with sex and intimacy, helping you move toward greater freedom, pleasure, and connection.