All of us want to feel healthy and beautiful, bringing a sense of uninhibited sexuality into the bedroom.
Why is it sometimes so difficult?
The assumption in our culture is, because you are a woman, you will know how to navigate the rocky terrain of intimacy, sex and relationships.
As a sex therapist, I too often see how this assumption has played out in women’s lives.
We are expected to know what we like, how we like it, what turns us on and, what gets us off.
But in the heat of the moment, we rarely find ourselves exploring those desires, ignoring the quiet chatter inside which asks, “Is this really all there is?”
Many of us struggle with eroticism because sex and intimacy, choosing partners and navigating romantic relationships are rarely taught or explained to us while we are growing up. For a lot of us, healthy relating and sexuality were not modeled. We are left to make it up or figure it out as we go along.
Also, women are bombarded daily with mixed messages about sex. These confusing messages only distances us from knowing what true pleasure and desire is in our bodies. There is an enormous pressure to be ‘sexy.’ Yet, most of us never really understand what ‘sexy’ feels like in our bodies.
Pleasure is often overlooked because of shame, fear, body image, and not having experiences allowing open communication.
The number one reason women show up in my office is reported low sexual desire. Simply, not being interested in sex because “What’s in it for me?” I want to help you more deeply understand yourself sexually.
You can wake up to your desire and connect to your sexual goddess!
You are sexy!
In sex therapy sessions, we will work at your own pace, helping you more deeply understand your patterns. Helping you move toward your pleasure, finding your unique sexy.“All good things are wild, and free.
Some common reasons women come in for sex therapy:
Embrace and enjoy your erotic self
Feeling erotically charged, passionately connected and sexy can give you confidence, freedom and power. There is no reason you need to feel cut off from your erotic self. I would love to help you feel your full sexual self and connect to what it truly means to be a sex goddess.
Love your body and increasing your self-confidence
Constantly worrying about your body how you look during sex consumes your energy and takes you out of the moment and away from connection with yourself and your partner. Let’s move through whatever is holding you back from loving your body right now – because it’s possible to feel free and confident.
You can be successful in dating and you probably just need a little help understanding what the dating ‘game’ is all about. Let’s help you understand and develop the tools you need to feel comfortable on dates, know when to set boundaries and find the love and erotic connection you deserve.
Bringing back desire
Desire and passion are keys to feeling alive. When desire seems lost, within ourselves or between us and our partners, it can be difficult to feel like ourselves. As humans, we need connection, touch and passion in life. Do not live cut off from yourself any longer. Let’s uncover what is holding you back and help you learn about yourself in a fresh, fun and non-judgmental way.
Sexual obstacles caused by physiological changes
Our bodies are constantly changing, and as we grow older and our bodies shift, we can become more sexually disconnected from our bodies, leading to feeling like we are a stranger to ourselves. Re-learning about your body and what it likes sexually can be more pleasurable than you ever imagined.
Afraid you’re not doing it right and your sexual experiences just don’t give you what you want? Being confident enough to go after what you want and secure enough to ask for what you need in bed is key to having mind-blowing sex. Cast aside your old belief about who you are as a sexual woman and step into a new, confident, sexy you.
Difficulty with orgasm
The confusion and frustration accompanying the inability to reach orgasm can affect your whole life, especially your romantic relationships. I have helped many women overcome sexual frustration and leave the inability to reach climax in the past.
Sexual abuse or unwanted sexual experience
Don’t let past sexual trauma or unwanted sexual experiences keep you from living! You deserve to feel free from your past and have the sex that serves you and gives you greater pleasure than you ever thought possible. Together, I will help you process and move forward from your past into a healthy sexual relationship with yourself and your partners.